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I know that they just want me to reach my full potential, and that wasn't gonna happen there.
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So I had to then make sacrifices for whatever my future family and my future requires of me.
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And so it was incredibly scary because I live off of stability.
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I and it was hard to walk away from money.
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That's what we'll get you too.
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It's like, how much money you can make in that world.
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And I, at 26, was doing very well.
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And so
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Welcome to the full field podcast.
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Welcome to the full field podcast.
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Welcome to the podcast.
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With your host Matt Tak with your host Matt Tak.
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Your host, Matt Tak.
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I'm doctor Alfred Lessy.
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Doctor Alfred Lessy.
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Bye now.
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I'm gonna set what the new normal looks like in my life.
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Welcome back to full fueled.
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Your host.
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Your host, Battag and Doctor Alfred Lessi.
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Here with season 2, ramping it up.
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Phenomenal guest today.
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Alexa Neacham, the host of the minutes of positivity podcast.
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We're gonna be talking about quitting your job, the 9 to 5 grind.
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Going entrepreneur, what the hustle looks like, keeping that positive mindset and all things
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health, wellness, and positive positive thinking.
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Right?
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Positive.
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Thank you for being on the show today.
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Thank you for having me.
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This is my first podcast interview.
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I'm usually on the other side, so this is really cool.
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Oh, we'll keep it casual.
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You're the interviewer.
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Yeah.
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I'm not used to that.
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Seats today.
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Awesome.
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Awesome.
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Well, tell us a little bit about yourself, a little bit about your podcast, kind of the
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focus, and, And what you're doing with it all?
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Yeah.
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So I I'm originally from Massachusetts.
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I moved to Tampa about 4 years ago, and I started the podcast about 4 years ago.
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And so, or about 3 years ago.
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And I I really just wanted a space where we could tell stories.
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That was the the motive behind it.
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It was like, oh, I just want a space where people can come on and share their stories
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about life.
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And I had gone through some things in mind where I was like, people could relate to this.
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This is a great idea.
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And then as I started doing it, I realized that I just was not in a great head space.
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And so I
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felt like a fraud
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almost because I was promoting all this positivity and trying to put all these
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incredible people on my podcast when I just wanted to crawl into bed and not talk
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to anybody.
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Yeah.
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And so it felt what was supposed to be really enjoyable to me felt so much
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like a chore that I decided I'll just take a little bit of a break from it, and then 2 years
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went by.
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And so I just relaunched it with a completely different mindset, a completely different
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intention, and I feel incredible about it now than I did before.
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Yeah.
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That's cool.
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Erica Thomas, you've heard of the hip hop creature.
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Mm-mm.
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Oh, dude.
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He's cool.
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But anyways,
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pick up where you left off.
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Yeah.
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Like, that's, that's such a cool concept because if it does take 2 years, it's like,
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yeah, 2 years went by, but so what?
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Pick up where you left off, and that's where
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you're going.
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I love that.
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And timing is everything, and I think that there was a there I know there was a reason I
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had taken that time off.
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It might not have made sent to sense to me then.
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However, now looking back, I'm like, oh, thank god.
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I took that time because I don't know that I would have been equipped for what's coming had
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I stayed in it.
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Whereas I took time to get to know myself, take care of myself, heal a little bit, get healthy.
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And now I'm like, oh, I mentally physically spiritually prepared for wherever this podcast
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could actually take me.
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That's so good.
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So I think sometimes you have to take a break from something to come back stronger just like
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working out, just like, you know, you take a couple weeks off from the gym, and I feel
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stronger going back.
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This is no different.
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It just It happened to be 2 years.
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Sometimes, yeah, sometimes you gotta hit that reset a little bit.
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Yeah.
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Again, like, the timing maybe 2 years ago, if you would have tried to, like, push through it
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and force it, right, square peg round hole kind of thing, you're trying to make something work
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that's not, like, ready for it or at the time.
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And then maybe you would have quit.
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Right?
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Like, maybe you wouldn't be here today doing it.
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Right.
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Good job for listening to, like, kind of your internal voice and
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Thank you.
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Following that.
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Yeah.
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For sure.
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I think we all gotta be better about doing that.
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Yeah.
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Yeah.
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I was still in my corporate job too, which was a big
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So you're trying to do 2 things.
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Yeah.
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Yeah.
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Where I had to be present for both, and they both needed my attention.
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And my corporate job was not a place where I was happy anymore.
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And so it was trickling into those
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other things.
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And I think when that starts to happen, it's really hard to continue to put yourself into
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like, I
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couldn't see the opportunities that were coming anymore.
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It just it was I was checked out.
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Yeah.
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Tell us about that.
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So what did you do for a corporate job?
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I worked for a pharmaceutical company in the compliance department.
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I was one of their lead investigators.
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So we made the drugs in the manufacturing We had the manufacturing building, and so we would
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manufacture the drugs.
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And so my job was to investigate when something went wrong.
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And then I had to sit with the client and basically tell them that, you know, there's a
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hair in the vial and This is why.
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And, you know, I just got yelled at a lot.
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Who wasn't the person they liked?
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Yes.
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You liked it.
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And then lunch would happen, and we'd be having lunch, and they'd be different people.
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And then lunch would go away and they'd be like, so why was the hair there?
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Did you put it there?
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I'm like, I didn't put the air there.
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Like, I'm I'm not in there.
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Yeah.
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So I was just this messenger that just they killed the messenger
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a lot.
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You had to go into the you had to go in there with the bad news.
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You were always looking for a problem
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always looking for a problem and always looking for a solution, and it's exhausting because
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you're like, even when you find the solution, something else happens.
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And you're like, okay.
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So we're back here again.
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But I was good at it, and I have a master's degree in health administration.
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And so I definitely have a passion for health care.
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And I just think it looks different now and how I how I'll pursue
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that looks different now.
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It sounds kinda like like what I've heard from you and just us chatting a little bit.
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It's like, you know, you put all this time into school and your life and learning, and you're
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kinda told the next step is you get a job and you go onto the world.
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You just do these things that are expected of you, and you were like, not working.
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I'm done with that.
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How scary was that?
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Right?
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Because a lot of people can't even fathom that idea, and that's why they stick in, of, in, an
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unhappy place for their entire lives.
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Right?
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Then they get to
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the end.
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They're like,
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what did I just do?
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What did I waste this entire thing?
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So
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it was terrifying
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Yeah.
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To say the least because I I put myself through my masters, and I'm a 1st generation.
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So I was really nervous to tell my family, like, oh, by the way, you know, because you
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don't you don't when you're a 1st generation, I think a lot of people can appreciate this.
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You don't have many options.
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You Yeah.
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You're my father is an immigrant who came from Lebanon to put me through school and do those
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things.
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And it was I was nervous to tell him, you know, hey.
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Can I switch some things up?
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You know?
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Yeah.
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And but I think when I when I finally decided that it was time to walk away, It didn't matter
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what anyone was gonna tell me because at that point, I I was 26, and
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I felt like I
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was 45.
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I felt miserable.
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And I I thought to myself, if I continue down this path, what do the next 20 years look like?
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And so I I know the sacrifices that my parents made to to give me the life that I have.
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And I know that they just want me to reach my full potential, and that wasn't gonna happen
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there.
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So I had to then make sacrifices for whatever my future family and my future requires of me.
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And so it was incredibly scary because I live off of, stability.
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I and it was hard to walk away from money.
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That's what we'll get you too is, like, how much money you can make in that world.
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And I at 26 was doing very well.
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And so to think about walking away from financial stability, it
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was like, oh, I'm making it really.
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This is crazy.
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And it was the best thing I ever did.
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So as scary as it was, it was the best thing I could have done.
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That is the thing about entrepreneurism is that it's it isn't for everybody.
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It's a scary, scary walk when you walk into it.
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It's like the 1st day, you're like, alright.
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I'm gonna do it.
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I'm actually gonna quit my job.
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I did that.
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And so I, like, my my first day, I'm, like, in my late twenties, and I'm trying to, like, what
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do I do now?
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You know, I didn't have, like, the I kinda had the side hustle, but I was, like, I was just
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getting into real estate a little bit.
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And I'm like, like, yeah.
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This is weird.
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Like, I I have a little bit of time, but then there's also that, like, that breathing
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component I can I can breathe?
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Like, actually, time time is on my side now.
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Yep.
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And then, like, I can best utilize it the way I want to.
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Yeah.
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Right.
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And so it it is.
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It's one of those, like, dynamics that it just it's this shift.
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It's this, like, complete culture shift.
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Totally.
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Because you do have a lot of stability structure.
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Somebody else is paying you a paycheck, but now you gotta go to go eat.
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You gotta find it.
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You gotta go.
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You definitely gotta go find it.
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That's cool.
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I get a question for you, though, because I'm so interested on the dynamic then if your 2nd
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generation so your parents were 1st generation.
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No.
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I am 1st.
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You're 1st.
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I'm sorry.
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But they were immigrants.
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They came over here.
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My father.
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Yes.
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Okay.
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So are they entrepreneurs?
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What did they do when they came from Lebanon?
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So my dad, I guess you could say, to some degree, is he owns or owned a restaurant.
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Okay.
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Yeah.
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And
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now, yeah, so he he he has a Lebanese restaurant in Massachusetts.
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And He has spent in the restaurant industry.
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He's a phenomenal cook.
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Absolutely.
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Can take 3 ingredients out of your pantry and make a four core like, four course meal.
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I need some too salad right now.
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Yeah.
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I'm drinking under
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you.
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Yeah.
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That's amazing.
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Going faster.
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Yeah.
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Right.
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And I'm telling you it's the best.
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And so I watched
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my whole life.
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Watched him work to the ground.
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You know?
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Like, he I I didn't see my dad a lot growing up in the way that, you know, I he would wake us
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up coming home late, waking us up to take us back to the house, and it was, He just he
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worked a lot, and he didn't trust anybody else to to cook the food the right way and
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everything like that.
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And now he's he does all these farmer's markets, and he makes pita chips, and he is
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doing phenomenal.
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So it's such a blessing.
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So, yeah, he technically is kind of an entrepreneur in his own in his own way.
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And that's so cool because we talked about this in our last podcast.
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Right?
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I had to reflect just this morning and reflected on this.
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As far as they had a dream.
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So they had a dream to come from Lebanon to the United States.
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They wanted to raise their family or hand to you.
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And, like, just taking a moment to kind of reflect on that as, like, as your parents,
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like, are they living out their dream.
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Right?
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Whether or not, like, he plan you know, that's what he had to do to survive for the family,
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but he instilled that in you, and that direct reflection was like, thank you.
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Like, it's almost like in a level of appreciation.
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And I was just saying that my parents are school teachers, but I I was like, if I had to
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ask them, like, we were middle income class.
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Like I said, I said it in a prior episode, but it was they were living that out.
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Like, my dad was a basketball coach.
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Loved it.
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Loved the game of basketball.
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My mom was a reading specialist.
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Just love teaching, and it was just a different level of success for them.
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Sure.
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But they lived their dream, and then they showed me that I became an entrepreneur because
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I'm like, look, I I gotta figure this thing out.
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And that's where, like, you're at, and your dad really, like, your parents had still that
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because they they made that choice.
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Do you do you see it that way?
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I think I guess I didn't necessarily look at it that way, but now that you say that probably to
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some degree, I definitely have asked people, my parents, and and my aunts, and my uncle, like,
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what they would do if they weren't, in their current job.
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And sometimes it's different than what they're doing.
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You know?
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And I always wonder if that was something that they would ever go back to or not.
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I I do come from a family of business owners.
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My mom's family owns car dealerships.
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So they all built car the car dealerships from from the ground up.
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So I grew up in
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that and watching my uncles.
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My grandfather, my uncles create an incredible business,
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selling cars, and they're very well known in Connecticut for that.
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So I guess I def
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I definitely get my work ethic and my drive from watching both of my family members, both
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sides of my family and how they're they have
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definitely gone through ups and downs and have pushed.
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So I for sure have had really great examples of even though it's hard, you get up and
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you keep going.
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Yeah.
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So And you you you stay true to yourself and you keep going.
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So I've I
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definitely've had great examples, thankfully.
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And it's not like you had to do this.
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Right?
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Like, you could've just kept that job and it's easier to collect some, you know, collect the
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check and just kinda listen and, you know, say yes or no, sir, that kind of thing.
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Right?
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Totally.
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You know what?
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It's kinda
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funny about that trail.
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Right?
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And I would've climbed the ladder.
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There's no doubt about that because I just know myself.
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I would've been like, okay.
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Well, it's time to get into a manager role.
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And then I originally wanted to run a hospital.
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That was the whole reason I got my master's degree.
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I was like, I'm gonna be the CEO of a hospital.
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And then I sat down with the CEO of a hospital, and he made a lot of great points.
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I had breakfast with him.
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And I thought I hope he was here.
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Yeah.
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You know, that's interesting.
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Like, you know, it put into perspective.
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Yeah.
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I said, you know what?
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But I'm different.
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And so I I was like, I'll I'll keep trying.
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And then I went into the prison systems and did my internship inside the prison systems to
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bring those 2 together, health care, and and correctional facilities.
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Saw that on your profile.
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Yeah.
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And so then I was like, can I do something with this?
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And I started to and I still think I will do some.
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I know I will do something with health care and and criminal justice and prison reform.
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It just looks different from a different I wanted my job to be different.
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I wanted to wake up and like what I do if it's gonna be something I have to do every single
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day.
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So that was really, what it was, but I I absolutely would have been easier to to sit
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there and just keep working away.
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And then I I don't know who I would have become then.
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And I don't know that I would have liked that person because I didn't really like I didn't
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really like her at 26.
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I wasn't gonna like her at 36 or 46.
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Yeah.
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That's so Not freaked me out.
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This is, like, the I I think of these things and really, like, kinda deep thought because,
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you know, the generation, especially somebody that's an immigrant.
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So my wife, she her dad was an immigrant, from Ecuador.
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He's an entrepreneur.
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And I've learned a lot from him, but it's always to make your kids' lives easier.
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Right?
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You're working so that, like, they can they can have an easier life.
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But the becoming of them, you don't see the becoming of them.
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Like, you're making a decision because you wanna narrate your story.
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Totally.
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Whereas, like, that's not really what the your parents probably had envisioned.
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They're like, actually, we're just trying to make life a little easier for you.
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How about you just keep the job?
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Yeah.
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Or because I wanna make your life a little bit easier.
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But the reality is when you can go through a little bit of the mud, when your story becomes
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a little bit better.
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And so that's kudos to you.
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That's awesome.
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Thank you.
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And I will say my parents, when I I think because I was 26 and not 21 or 18 coming to
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them and saying I wanna be an actress.
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I wanna try this.
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I wanna you know, maybe start my podcast again.
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I think I could really make it was almost like she she knows what she wants at this point.
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There's nothing.
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And so, thankfully, both my parents and My family have been incredibly supportive of my
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decision and have continued.
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I think they also are now seeing it in action in a way
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that because it's taken a little bit.
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You know?
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I'm now 28.
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So it's taken 2 years to get to this moment, which I've
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prayed to get here.
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So I'm like, I know where I'm going, but I've waited to get to this moment.
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So I'm gonna enjoy this moment.
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And so I think they're seeing the progress as well, and and I know that they're proud of me
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and and want me to keep keep going.
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So That's at least it does help because I it can be hard if you don't have any type of
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support system.
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That can help big time when you maybe have those that self doubt, right, or you kinda have
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to kinda, like, question my shit.
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Did I, like, oh, there were so many times last year where I was like, I've ruined my life.
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Yeah.
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I I ruined my life.
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Like, this is crazy.
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Because I think what you said before, it was like, you you get to breathe when you quit.
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Yeah.
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And it was like, I'm just taking, like, a vacation.
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I'll go back.
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You know?
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And then I was like, oh, no.
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I quit.
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Like, I cannot go back.
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I sent my, my computer.
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Like, I don't Yeah.
00:18:03
I don't have health insurance anymore.
00:18:05
What am I you know, and so I had to find all those things and figure it out, and I had to go
00:18:09
get another job that was I just didn't ever anticipate having to do again.
00:18:15
That was outside of that world.
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You know?
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And it's hard because it's so much easier to be like, I have a master's in Bragg, and I have a
00:18:22
good job.
00:18:23
It's when you leave it that people are like, what are you doing?
00:18:25
Yeah.
00:18:26
Why would you do that?
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Is it so different from the norm Right?
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That's kinda
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what we're talking about.
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Right?
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So that
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And it's scary to them.
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Yeah.
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So, therefore, they tell me that I, you know, they project it onto me.
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100%.
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And so then, of course, I for about a year, I internalized that.
00:18:41
I think and I think I needed that year to kind of spiral.
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So that I could come to where I am now.
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I was like, yeah.
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I'm good.
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I got it.
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Like, this is what I'm supposed to do.
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I get
00:18:50
to the mud.
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You gotta get through the mud.
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Yeah.
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And the mud is super scary.
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Super dark.
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Super dark.
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I can yeah.
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Really dark.
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I can relate in a way because, you know, like, I was eighteen when I told my dad, like, hey.
00:19:02
I'm not I don't wanna work for you.
00:19:04
Right?
00:19:04
So, like, my dad built this, like, empire of a company that his dad started when he immigrated
00:19:08
from from Italy, from Sicily.
00:19:10
And so, you know, big family company almost ever the family works there, like, my brother
00:19:13
works there.
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I've been working there since I was 12, you know, in the factory on the summers and stuff.
00:19:17
So I knew, you know, that that was kinda like a shoe in for me.
00:19:19
I was like, I
00:19:20
can just do this.
00:19:21
Right?
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But I just didn't there's just something about me that was just different.
00:19:23
I didn't I didn't see myself going that route.
00:19:25
I love sports.
00:19:26
I love fitness.
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I wanted to be in the space.
00:19:29
And so, like, having that conversation with my dad, like, hey.
00:19:31
I'm gonna do something else.
00:19:32
You know, it's like, now shit.
00:19:33
Like, now I gotta figure it out.
00:19:35
Right?
00:19:35
Cause, like, he's he he had this plan, right, that he kinda said in in motion for me.
00:19:39
But Totally.
00:19:39
You know, I am happy that I am because I've learned so much about myself through the
00:19:43
journey, that I am stronger than I I actually thought I was.
00:19:47
Right?
00:19:47
Like, I don't need to rely on others to for my happiness, for my success.
00:19:51
Like, I can I can do it?
00:19:52
Right?
00:19:53
And so, yeah, I think the entrepreneurial grind is not for everyone.
00:19:57
I think that's, like, a a real heart check to be, like, when when it's the mud, right, when
00:20:02
you're going through the valleys and the mud, like, do you rise, or, like, do you do you
00:20:06
crumble and, like, run for help?
00:20:07
Right?
00:20:07
And so it's, like, sometimes it's good to ask for help, obviously.
00:20:10
I don't mean that.
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But you know, like, how do you respond to that?
00:20:13
So kudos to you.
00:20:13
That's that's Yeah.
00:20:14
That's awesome.
00:20:14
I think all three of us are in that same mindset.
00:20:17
Yeah.
00:20:17
Shout out to you too.
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I mean, I think that we've gotten to just know each other, obviously, really, really well.
00:20:23
But that's one of the mad respects that I just have for you.
00:20:26
Because I've gotten to know his family.
00:20:27
I've gotten to know the environment a little bit more.
00:20:30
And, like, you are.
00:20:32
You're the black sheep.
00:20:33
The reality is, like
00:20:35
Yeah.
00:20:35
You made, yeah, you definitely made that decision.
00:20:38
Yeah.
00:20:39
And, I got mad respect for you, brother.
00:20:41
Yeah.
00:20:41
I appreciate you, man.
00:20:42
Thank you.
00:20:42
It's not easy.
00:20:43
Yeah.
00:20:44
Well, tell us a little bit about, you know, the focus of the podcast.
00:20:47
It's called minutes of positivity.
00:20:48
So it's very much mindset focused.
00:20:50
What do you talk about?
00:20:51
Like, what do you get into and kind of what are maybe some of the top you know, top 3 kind of
00:20:56
topics that you you dial on?
00:20:58
So I have different guests on, and each one represents something different.
00:20:58
So I just had a professional boxer
00:20:59
on there, Willie, Monroe, talked a lot about mindset boxing health and what that's done for
00:21:12
him in his life and
00:21:14
the trajectory of his life being, you know, having that kind of structure and all that kind
00:21:14
of stuff.
00:21:14
And he talked a lot about mindset and that.
00:21:14
So I loved that.
00:21:14
And then I had somebody on there Bridget Gibson who talked a lot about just positivity and
00:21:28
looking at the world from a different view and what that can do for you.
00:21:32
So it's really about minutes of positivity, right, is just it's essentially a big umbrella.
00:21:39
And I wanted it to be something where any kind of story could be told, but there's a they're
00:21:47
there to tell the story, which is a positive.
00:21:50
And no matter how dark or how light it is, like, we all go through things.
00:21:57
And so I wanted to to provide a space that was safe enough for people to to share their
00:22:03
stories so that somebody else could hear it and laugh, which is positive.
00:22:10
Cry, which is positive.
00:22:12
You feel seen, heard, you realize you're not alone, all those kinds of things.
00:22:17
And so I guess I wanted to create a space that I wish I had at times.
00:22:23
Me too.
00:22:24
Yeah.
00:22:24
And so, especially during the times where I felt the most alone, I wish I had something
00:22:31
where I, you know, Oh, it does get better.
00:22:34
And, you know, so I guess I'm just creating creating what I I wish I had.
00:22:41
And so minutes of positivity is to showcase that.
00:22:46
It's to showcase my journey as well because I've had such an incredible mind shift.
00:22:52
And I I see the reality of doing that and the benefits of of having a positive mindset, what
00:23:00
it can do for you and your daily living.
00:23:02
And so I just launched, actually, a moment of positivity segment where I'll be talking a lot
00:23:10
more about that kind of stuff and showing myself more because a lot of people are like,
00:23:14
okay.
00:23:14
But we're not seeing as much of you.
00:23:16
And so I still have my interviews, which I love doing because I love sitting down and hearing
00:23:21
people's stories.
00:23:22
But now my story is also going to slowly be shared, and I'm excited about that.
00:23:28
That's that's really cool.
00:23:29
Yeah.
00:23:30
So tell us, you went through a shift over really the past year.
00:23:34
You said you almost lost, like, £30 Yeah.
00:23:37
So I'm assuming fitness isn't incorporated into that.
00:23:40
And then how is that blended into, like, the mindset and the positivity of all that?
00:23:46
So I, my, for a majority of my life, have had a pretty nasty gut I had suffered for years with
00:23:54
IBS, and I would have all these colonoscopies, and they would tell me that my colon looks
00:23:58
good.
00:23:59
And we could never figure out what was wrong with my stomach.
00:24:04
And I was definitely one of those people who did a lot of the, okay, I'll try this diet, and
00:24:10
then I would lose weight really fast.
00:24:12
And then I would gain it all back times 2.
00:24:15
And I was like, what is going on?
00:24:18
And I was a college athlete.
00:24:20
So what was interesting about that is when I when I and I think this happens often is when I
00:24:27
was going into my masters, I gained a lot of weight because I was no longer training for
00:24:32
something particular.
00:24:34
And that throws your mind off a little bit because you're like, well, I don't need to go
00:24:38
to the gym because I don't have to practice or I don't have to play.
00:24:40
So it's not really a big deal.
00:24:43
And, that was a lot.
00:24:47
And so then when I graduated.
00:24:50
I lost a lot of weight, and then we hit COVID.
00:24:52
And I gained it all back.
00:24:53
And then I moved here, and I was probably at my heaviest.
00:24:57
And it wasn't until I think I was 25 and I got tested.
00:25:02
My cholesterol was at 290.
00:25:05
And I remember I was sitting at the breakfast table with my grandparents, and my grandfather
00:25:11
said, I have to take my medication.
00:25:12
I said, oh, yeah.
00:25:13
Me too.
00:25:13
I'll grab yours as well.
00:25:17
And my grandmother, my grandfather, and I all took the same cholesterol medication.
00:25:21
Oh, man.
00:25:22
And I thought, oh, something has to change.
00:25:25
Yeah.
00:25:26
Like, this is crazy.
00:25:30
So I I was put on medication because I needed to get it down quickly.
00:25:36
And then we got I got off of it, and I saw a gastro who was had a nutritionist attached to
00:25:43
the practice so that they could work together on my system and basically restarted my entire
00:25:52
gut.
00:25:53
And so that was a process.
00:25:55
And then I started that in June, October, I quit my job.
00:26:03
And then by November, I started to notice.
00:26:07
I was like, oh, I'm starting to lose weight.
00:26:08
Like, okay.
00:26:09
This is working.
00:26:11
And I was eating really clean, I was working out like I had never before.
00:26:16
I didn't even train like this in college.
00:26:18
And then by February, it melted off my body.
00:26:18
And I had to learn patience with it because I realized I was healing my gut, so I knew I had
00:26:30
to be patient.
00:26:32
It was different than just losing weight.
00:26:34
It was Yeah.
00:26:35
I just got to a point where I said, I just want a healthy body.
00:26:39
And whatever I look like, I look like.
00:26:41
I just need a healthy body.
00:26:43
At this point.
00:26:44
And I just started making some serious, serious changes and just started changing how I think
00:26:50
about it too.
00:26:51
I'm like, I get to do this.
00:26:52
I get to work out.
00:26:55
I have the ability and it just started melting off my body.
00:27:00
And this has been the longest, I think, in my life where I've actually maintained a physique
00:27:06
because I did it the most natural, efficient, patient way I could.
00:27:10
You dump that huge stress too of that job.
00:27:12
Oh.
00:27:12
You
00:27:13
gotta wear any down.
00:27:13
That was, like, £15.
00:27:15
It was like, I quit that.
00:27:16
I was like, woah.
00:27:17
My clothes fit looser.
00:27:18
I started functioning on a more of, like, optimal level for sure.
00:27:22
And and people don't realize how much stress affects the gut.
00:27:24
Right?
00:27:25
Totally.
00:27:25
Your body's stressed, it's like, let's not worry about this.
00:27:28
Let's just, like, keep the lights on right now.
00:27:30
You know?
00:27:30
And it's not gonna handle all the other stuff that needs to be addressed.
00:27:33
So Yeah.
00:27:34
That survival mode is crazy.
00:27:37
And what it does to your mind and your body, there was a moment where I thought I was just
00:27:44
never gonna not live without feeling anxiety.
00:27:48
And I started to really I I was working with my life coach, and I said, I something has to
00:27:54
change.
00:27:55
I'm in shambles at this point.
00:27:57
I'm spiraling.
00:27:59
I feel I quit my job.
00:28:01
I'm doing all these things, but I'm actually not doing anything.
00:28:04
It was almost like I needed a little bit of time to be don't wanna say rebellious, but I
00:28:13
need k.
00:28:14
One second.
00:28:15
Just Scott's nice and
00:28:17
Oh, there we go.
00:28:19
We got time, though.
00:28:19
I didn't
00:28:19
know that was auto attendant.
00:28:21
That was funny.
00:28:23
I didn't know we were being that still.
00:28:25
That's pretty
00:28:25
impressive.
00:28:25
Yeah.
00:28:26
That's pretty impressive.
00:28:26
That's good.
00:28:28
But there was
00:28:28
a time period there for a minute where I think I needed to
00:28:28
be a little bit rebellious because I Right?
00:28:39
Like, I I went to college.
00:28:41
I was a college athlete.
00:28:42
I danced in college.
00:28:43
I did all the I was in RA.
00:28:45
I then went immediately after got my masters immediately after that was in a big girl job
00:28:50
and was doing all these things.
00:28:52
I never got to just rage.
00:28:55
You know?
00:28:56
Like, I feel like I just I
00:28:57
finally got to be a twenty something year old.
00:28:57
And I was working in the
00:28:58
restaurant business, the restaurant industry, and I just kinda did that.
00:28:58
And then I got to a point where I was like, okay.
00:29:09
I don't like how all of this feels.
00:29:11
It's sustainable.
00:29:11
You know, and, like, I can't do this.
00:29:14
I'm I'm surrounded by peep this doesn't none of this is making something.
00:29:18
And I just so I started reading this book, positive intelligence, and that changed.
00:29:23
Everything for me.
00:29:24
It's such an incredible book.
00:29:26
I my roommate says I should be the poster child for the book, and I would agree with that.
00:29:32
Because it did it.
00:29:33
It my life coach told me you need to read this book.
00:29:35
It's time.
00:29:36
And I read it in the first chapter I texted him.
00:29:39
And I was like, so this is a personal attack, and I don't like it.
00:29:42
And he goes, you call me when you're done.
00:29:46
And it was like, I had to reintroduce myself to him.
00:29:48
It changed my entire mindset, and then things started happening.
00:29:53
I quit that job and went to a different restaurant industry or different restaurant
00:29:58
job.
00:29:58
And the way that I treat that job is way different than the one I than I used to.
00:30:03
I started really putting myself out there.
00:30:05
I was doing a lot more things with acting because I was in acting school for 2 years,
00:30:09
actually 3 years, and still am.
00:30:13
And so I just, like, things started.
00:30:15
The ball started actually rolling.
00:30:18
And so as much as I was taking care of myself, I wasn't taking care of myself.
00:30:25
And then I started to really put all of that stuff in motion.
00:30:31
And I remember one day I just sat down on the couch, and it was still.
00:30:39
And I started crying.
00:30:41
I was like, why am I crying?
00:30:43
I'm like, is it that time of the month?
00:30:44
Like, why am I crying?
00:30:46
I felt peace.
00:30:49
And I realized I hadn't had anxiety for, like, 3 days.
00:30:53
And I was like, it is possible.
00:30:57
It is possible to live without that survival mode 247.
00:31:04
It's not normal.
00:31:06
To live in that.
00:31:08
And now I live 80% in peace.
00:31:11
And so when I am anxious, I know exactly what that feels like.
00:31:14
I know where it sits.
00:31:15
I know why.
00:31:17
And I just have so much more control over my health, my mental stability, my spirituality,
00:31:24
everything, and it just all somehow, like, came together.
00:31:29
And now I feel ready to take on my career differently, my health differently, and keep
00:31:35
doing that because I feel prepared.
00:31:38
Whereas, like, last year, I was like, I'm not prepared.
00:31:40
Why did I quit my job?
00:31:41
I'm not prepared, but I needed that I needed that year to just kinda go batshit crazy for a
00:31:48
second so that I needed to go as honestly, I had to hit, like, a rock bottom, a version of
00:31:56
that for me to go.
00:31:57
Okay.
00:31:57
It's time to wake up.
00:31:58
Yeah.
00:31:59
Sometimes that's what it takes.
00:32:00
Yeah.
00:32:01
Unfortunately.
00:32:02
But we talk, you know, we talk a lot about, like, the pillars of life and, like, having
00:32:06
balance in in a way, right, if if you're super focused in your career, that's a good thing.
00:32:12
But if it starts to suck from other areas, right, your fitness is low or your your
00:32:16
unhealthy there, or your mindset is crap, but you're super fit.
00:32:19
Like, that's not proper balance.
00:32:21
Right?
00:32:21
The buy is a it's an unsustainable thing.
00:32:23
You gotta have all these things kind of in check.
00:32:25
Right?
00:32:25
So we're very focused on that.
00:32:27
So it sounds like that's kinda what you went through.
00:32:28
It's like you were like, alright.
00:32:29
Like, this thing's good.
00:32:31
This is shit.
00:32:32
Like, this is good.
00:32:33
I kinda like, how do I stack
00:32:35
it on?
00:32:35
Nothing was aligning.
00:32:36
Everything was Right.
00:32:37
I would get something really good, and then something else was really in the gutter.
00:32:41
And I was like, how do the how are are any of these gonna align?
00:32:45
And now I feel the most balanced.
00:32:48
I'm like, okay.
00:32:50
I can handle anything at this point.
00:32:51
I'm like, I got it.
00:32:52
Yeah.
00:32:53
Yeah.
00:32:53
That's awesome.
00:32:53
There's a book that I just finished reading.
00:32:56
It was play a bigger game, but he was saying he was basically talking about we have pillars
00:33:01
that we essentially work on and we kinda live by in terms of our core values, Alfred and
00:33:06
myself, but he he gave a good context of it, and it's exactly what you were saying.
00:33:12
There's burners.
00:33:12
Right?
00:33:13
And so there's burners that you put up, and then there's also burners that you kinda, like,
00:33:18
temperature down.
00:33:19
They're not off, but they temperature down.
00:33:22
And so it's this concept of we're in a season of businesses business right now.
00:33:28
So, like, it's very hectic, but then there's also what burners can you have at, like, a
00:33:34
relatively high heat, but
00:33:35
then not sacrifice other things.
00:33:35
And so for me, yeah, I my priority, like, my health is very much priority.
00:33:43
And so I focus, like, that burner's relatively high right now.
00:33:46
I wouldn't say that it's at its highest because when we're working out, it's 45 minutes to an
00:33:51
hour and we're done.
00:33:52
Like, we're jacked.
00:33:54
But people don't realize, like, we put in the attention of the workout.
00:33:57
We talked about this in the podcast of just being super intentional with our workouts,
00:34:00
and they
00:34:01
were out.
00:34:01
Right?
00:34:01
Right.
00:34:02
It's a
00:34:02
and then we're back to work.
00:34:04
So you would think on Instagram, though, the way we post workout all the time.
00:34:07
That's not the case.
00:34:09
So we're, like, hyper focused with our workouts.
00:34:11
We're hyper focused with our nutrition, but we got kids at the end of the day.
00:34:15
And so in the season of life, that burner's really hot.
00:34:18
Mhmm.
00:34:19
And because I'm not gonna miss out on their life.
00:34:21
Like, I got 3 girls, and I'm not gonna miss out on the seasonality of that because I know that
00:34:25
Genevieve's gonna turn 18.
00:34:27
I know that not this year.
00:34:29
She's at 8 right now.
00:34:30
She will be 18.
00:34:31
Yeah.
00:34:32
Sure.
00:34:32
And so it's like putting that in the spectrum of where that heat check is.
00:34:36
Whereas when she's probably 15 or 16 and she's hanging out with her friends, and I'm not the
00:34:41
most important in the world that you you person in there.
00:34:44
Like, things do dial differently, and the burner comes on differently.
00:34:48
Right?
00:34:48
I might I might choose to do an iron man during that time frame because, like, I had maybe had
00:34:53
the capacity to really dial in some training.
00:34:56
I'm not gonna do that right now because I know the training that that takes.
00:34:59
Yeah.
00:34:59
And so it's these burners that you can put on.
00:35:03
Of course, when you're, like, you're single and you have, like, the maximum capacity of time,
00:35:07
there's a few burners you can put on.
00:35:09
But I I thought about that process of, like, being able to temperature check those burners
00:35:14
of what we say no to and what we say yes to.
00:35:17
And then being able to, you know, put it at a high heat, then put something at a relatively
00:35:21
low heat.
00:35:21
But when you can pull those strings, you become well optimized.
00:35:25
Yeah.
00:35:26
On that point too, like, pulling the strings, like, how do you elevate one without
00:35:29
sacrificing another.
00:35:31
And I think that's where it comes to, like, those efficiencies that you put in or, like,
00:35:35
like, tactile things that you can do to make
00:35:38
the workout less time expensive so that you can free up time for other things without
00:35:38
sacrificing the
00:35:38
benefits of that work out.
00:35:45
Right?
00:35:45
And that's what we talked about with Jerry was, like, circuit training versus, you know,
00:35:50
traditional body building sitting on your phone for an hour a half.
00:35:53
And people who are like, yeah.
00:35:54
I go to
00:35:54
the gym for 2 hours.
00:35:55
I'm like, wish I could.
00:35:56
Love the gym.
00:35:57
One of my favorite places in the planet don't have the time to do it for 2 hours.
00:36:01
Right?
00:36:01
So, like, 45 minutes, get it done, like, hyper focused, hyper efficient, free up some time,
00:36:07
still got a great workout, probably better, right, than an unfocused workout.
00:36:10
Totally.
00:36:11
And now there's more time for something else.
00:36:13
So now I can elevate multiple pillars at the same time.
00:36:15
Right?
00:36:15
Now maybe I have another 30 minutes.
00:36:17
I can re I could probably read a half a buck in that amount of time.
00:36:20
Right?
00:36:20
So, you know, and then also, right, like, you talk about with, like, the the gym quick method
00:36:25
of speed reading or, like, like, like, focused, speed reading where you can do that.
00:36:29
I can get through a half of a book in, like, a morning.
00:36:31
You know what I mean?
00:36:32
And, like, that if I didn't have that that tactile thing, so let's do this.
00:36:37
Let's for, like, the mindset thing, give us a couple ways that you, like, focus on maybe
00:36:41
with, like, your guests or or just in your personal life, like, like, tactile things that
00:36:46
you do to shift, say, mindset into that positivity, right, to free ourselves from
00:36:51
getting, you know, just getting burden.
00:36:53
Yeah.
00:36:54
So things I do for myself that
00:36:56
have helped, I will say, in setting boundaries too, because I think I
00:36:56
again, I I call myself a recovering people pleaser because I put
00:36:56
I was I loved helping everybody else.
00:37:13
And I would take on this.
00:37:14
I'm like, I'm this martyr.
00:37:15
Like, I put everyone before me.
00:37:16
Okay.
00:37:16
That's crazy.
00:37:16
Just so you know, that's not how it, you know, you have to put yourself first so that you can
00:37:16
be the best version for these people.
00:37:26
And so I didn't I learned that the harder way.
00:37:30
But here
00:37:30
we are.
00:37:30
So some things I
00:37:30
do to make sure that I'm efficient for my day
00:37:30
is when I wake up, like most people, I don't go on my phone.
00:37:43
That is just my thing.
00:37:45
I don't
00:37:46
think that's like most people.
00:37:48
Well, I think most people go on their phone
00:37:50
as well.
00:37:50
Oh, yeah.
00:37:50
Oh, yeah.
00:37:51
Yeah.
00:37:51
Yeah.
00:37:51
That's
00:37:51
how we move out.
00:37:52
Okay.
00:37:52
Gotcha.
00:37:53
And I also think a lot of people are like, oh, I don't go my phone, but then, you know,
00:37:56
they're they're posting that they don't go on their phone.
00:37:58
You know?
00:37:59
They're like, wait.
00:38:00
I'm confused.
00:38:00
Yeah.
00:38:02
You're on your phone.
00:38:04
But I I don't I don't go on any social media till I give myself till, like, 9 AM because I'm
00:38:10
usually up before that.
00:38:11
Okay.
00:38:12
And so I give myself till 9, and sometimes it's past that because I'm already distracted and
00:38:18
doing other things.
00:38:19
I really enjoy I've really enjoyed journaling lately, over the last year, as I was
00:38:25
transitioning out of that, like, chaotic stage, I started to really tap into journaling and
00:38:30
being honest with myself.
00:38:32
And I have a separate manifestation journal.
00:38:35
So they're very different ones for just my my thoughts, and the other one is to speak kindly
00:38:40
to myself.
00:38:43
And I do that.
00:38:44
I speak very kindly to myself.
00:38:46
I I always say, like, last year, I no one could speak worse to me than I did.
00:38:52
And now no one can speak kinder to me than I do.
00:38:56
Because I think it's it's just shifting your, dialogue in your head and understanding whose
00:39:06
voice is speaking at the time in which, you know, because we all have a judge Like, is that
00:39:11
your voice, or is that someone else's projection?
00:39:13
And are you?
00:39:14
And so I am very mindful of the way I talk to myself.
00:39:21
I'm very mindful of the way I talk about myself to others.
00:39:25
And I also don't do anything with anybody until after 10 AM.
00:39:32
So if I have a doctor's appointment, it's not till after 10.
00:39:35
I don't schedule anything before 10 AM.
00:39:37
So that allows me to either have a slow morning if I need it or get and go get a workout in or
00:39:44
go for a walk or do all the things that just allows me to be with myself before I then go
00:39:51
ahead and entertain.
00:39:53
Anyone else.
00:39:54
And I try not to take phone calls or anything before that as well.
00:39:57
So, like, I really have focused on sitting with myself so that I can be better for when other
00:40:06
people you know, come to me.
00:40:08
I have enough energy to to navigate them.
00:40:13
But a lot of things that that people have come on to my podcast and have talked about in terms
00:40:20
of mindset.
00:40:21
Have all been around the dialogue in which we talk to ourselves.
00:40:25
I
00:40:25
know your monologue is.
00:40:26
Yeah.
00:40:26
And how much of a difference that has made.
00:40:30
And something that I've adopted is the thank you more, please.
00:40:34
And it's where when something good happens to you, someone compliments you.
00:40:40
If you get a new patient, if, you know, whatever it is, if it feels good, you say thank
00:40:49
you more, please, which allows that energy to go out to the universe or whomever you believe
00:40:57
in, god, that you were acknowledging the gift that was just given to you.
00:41:03
And that you would like more of it.
00:41:06
And I'm telling you that has changed my perspective because now I'm seeking for those
00:41:13
moments.
00:41:14
And I started to just adjust my brain.
00:41:21
I'd wake up, and I'd say, like, today is a great day.
00:41:25
And I'm gonna have a great day, and I'm gonna make a lot of money at work today.
00:41:29
And when I would get a good tip, I would say thank you to them.
00:41:32
I'd walk away and I'd be like, more please.
00:41:33
And then I'd get another tip, and then I get an and it was because then all of a sudden, my
00:41:39
energy changed because now I'm seeking that positivity.
00:41:43
I'm seeking that high vibrating energy without realizing I'm the one that's putting it out
00:41:49
there.
00:41:50
Yeah.
00:41:51
And so I've had people say to me, like, I'd I I've had people say, like, I struggle sometimes
00:41:56
being around you because you operate at such a high vibration.
00:41:58
They're not vibrating as high as you are.
00:42:00
Yeah.
00:42:00
I make Like, what is that?
00:42:02
Jake is talking about?
00:42:03
He's like, they can't, like, like, see you or they can't, like, they can't, like, pick up on
00:42:09
it.
00:42:09
Right?
00:42:09
Like, they're they feel threatened, or they feel like, that's when people, like, judge.
00:42:14
Right?
00:42:14
It's that they feel like whoever they're judging.
00:42:16
They're actually jealous of, and that jealousy is such a low vibration.
00:42:20
They're, like, they're so down here.
00:42:22
You know?
00:42:22
Well, I I think too when you make shifts in your life and the people around you, it puts a
00:42:27
mirror to them.
00:42:29
And if they don't like the reflection, they they're gonna come at you.
00:42:33
And I've had to deal with that.
00:42:35
I've had to adjust to the fact that, you know, a lot of it's not about me.
00:42:40
Like, that's not that's about them.
00:42:43
You know, they must feel some type of their they're looking internally and don't like
00:42:47
something because I've done that where I somebody's done something or said something and
00:42:51
I'm like, oh, should I?
00:42:53
And now all of a sudden, I'm insecure.
00:42:55
And so I think that when I stopped looking at everybody else or stopped looking for all this
00:43:01
validation and and just started to look within and decided, what kind of a partner do I wanna
00:43:06
be?
00:43:06
What kind of a friend do I wanna be?
00:43:08
And deciding the kinds of energy I wanted to attract, I just started becoming that energy.
00:43:17
And then as a result, I have attracted some of the best people.
00:43:21
I've had some of the great some great networking events.
00:43:24
I've done some really good acting things because I think now I just operate in that
00:43:29
energy.
00:43:30
And I'm not going to apologize for operating in that energy because you don't know what it took
00:43:36
for me to get there.
00:43:37
If you ever read the book, by Steven Hawkins Power Versus Fors.
00:43:42
I've heard of it.
00:43:43
Oh, man.
00:43:43
It's such a good one.
00:43:44
I I'll I'll look that up for sure.
00:43:46
You're basically speaking the alignment of that, but, like, they took, it was graded out
00:43:50
of a scale.
00:43:51
Right?
00:43:51
And so you take Jesus, Gandhi, mother, Theresa, and then the vibrations of frequency at which
00:43:58
they operate.
00:43:58
And, like, Jesus is near, like, near perfection or
00:44:01
perfection and
00:44:02
quite a 1000.
00:44:03
Right?
00:44:04
But then, the vibration of frequency was, like, on a scale of 1 to a 100.
00:44:08
And then Hitler was, like, in the 100 to 200, but he did his, like, withdrew force.
00:44:14
Right?
00:44:15
And then they gained their power through the laws of attraction.
00:44:18
So, like, the laws of which they vibrated.
00:44:20
Right?
00:44:21
And they built, that off of it, but he talks about, I mean, it's a dense book.
00:44:25
So if you read it, it's dense.
00:44:27
You're not speed reading that.
00:44:29
You're not speed reading that one now.
00:44:31
But it's dense, but it the whole it encapsulates, like, some of the thinkers,
00:44:37
right, of what Gandhi did and how he, you know, he started out as 1.
00:44:42
And then, like, what was it?
00:44:43
Like, 10 people around him when he reached the sea.
00:44:46
And then, mother Theresa on how, like, that attraction occurred because she was just there.
00:44:51
And so she was operating at, like, 7.50.
00:44:54
Majority of people operate.
00:44:55
Like, I think he said, that the United States operates in this 3 to 400 range, which is,
00:45:02
like, kind of that borderline negative mentality versus, like, they're slightly
00:45:07
positive.
00:45:07
You know what I mean?
00:45:08
Right.
00:45:09
It's survival.
00:45:09
It's survival.
00:45:10
It's complete survival.
00:45:12
You're alive.
00:45:12
You can now have.
00:45:13
Yeah.
00:45:14
You're breathing.
00:45:14
You can now have power, though, like, when you operate low.
00:45:18
So he was just given an imagery of Hitler on how, like, you can have that power, but there
00:45:22
was there was no joy in that.
00:45:24
Right?
00:45:25
You're just massacring people.
00:45:26
I'm actually reading, the book right now by, oh, man, drawing a blank on the name, really
00:45:34
good man search for meaning.
00:45:36
And it was basically this doctor in a concentration camp that takes you the the
00:45:41
entire way through it, but what kept him alive was the fact that he had a vision of his wife
00:45:48
and meeting his wife again and embracing her.
00:45:51
And it's like it's a really, like, it's a brutal story.
00:45:54
Yeah.
00:45:55
Like, you could you could just feel it.
00:45:57
But the vibration at which he operate operated was allowed him to go through where some
00:46:03
people, they didn't know when the end would come in terms of the war.
00:46:06
And they were the how the Jews killed themselves.
00:46:09
They would run into electric fences.
00:46:11
And so there was a couple days before they were liberated.
00:46:14
There were people killing themselves because they just didn't know the end.
00:46:18
But it's so it's anyways, the point is is, like, you you get a choice to live at that
00:46:24
frequency.
00:46:24
Yes.
00:46:25
And so, like, that choice is a day by day and those thoughts compound in terms of that level
00:46:30
of positivity and the power of self talk.
00:46:32
I take it back to this.
00:46:34
Like, what kind of and I don't think it's a bad thing.
00:46:37
I think Michael Jordan did a lot.
00:46:38
Not that I'm comparing myself to Michael But, I think Michael George maybe a little bit of Kobe
00:46:43
Brian did this, but, like, they had a chip on their shoulders.
00:46:47
Like, they they were like, look, I'm gonna be the greatest and, like, you're gonna then then
00:46:50
they forced the greatest around them.
00:46:53
But, like, for me, when I started out, it was always like, I was thinking back to, like,
00:46:59
people that I'm like, they want me to fail.
00:47:02
So I'm gonna get after.
00:47:03
Yeah.
00:47:03
Like, I wanna just get after it.
00:47:05
Right?
00:47:05
Cause I know they want me to fail.
00:47:07
And so, like, there's that chip that might be good, but then at the end of the time, is there
00:47:12
joy in the presence of that?
00:47:14
What vibration are you talking?
00:47:15
Like, you're talking about as far as what your frequency yet?
00:47:18
And so now my mindset is completely shifted similar to yours where the way I speak to
00:47:24
myself is I give myself authority.
00:47:27
I give myself, like, that, like, yes, I can come in.
00:47:30
I am in alpha, but at the end of the day, I can let other people lead.
00:47:34
I can I can step down and I can say, hey, dude, I wanna elevate you?
00:47:39
And that is, like, one of the, I mean, you get so much from that when you can elevate
00:47:45
somebody.
00:47:45
So anyways, for for what it's worth, I read a lot of books.
00:47:49
Yeah.
00:47:49
No.
00:47:49
I and I want a bigger brain on that.
00:47:52
I I would agree.
00:47:53
I think I there was a time too where I was just like, well, I'm gonna do it because everybody
00:47:57
else thinks I can't.
00:47:58
You know?
00:47:59
And I think to some degree, it's okay to use that energy to fuel you at times.
00:48:08
Right now, it's interesting.
00:48:10
I I recently wrote in my journal that I wanna do it for the time period that I didn't think
00:48:16
that I could.
00:48:17
Like, I wanna do it for the version of me that didn't think that I could.
00:48:21
That questioned whether or not I was strong enough, capable enough, resilient enough.
00:48:25
I wanna prove to her that I can because I can see my future self.
00:48:31
And I talked to her.
00:48:32
I sit down with her and have lunch with her often.
00:48:34
And I'm like, so how are we doing?
00:48:36
What, like, what do I need to be doing right now?
00:48:39
You look great, by the way.
00:48:40
You know?
00:48:41
Like, I will talk to my future self because I know that she is waiting for me.
00:48:46
And I'm just trying to be as present as I can because I'm
00:48:52
I'm also acting like her, what I think my future self would be doing.
00:48:52
And it's it sometimes just those baby steps.
00:48:53
Like, I wanna be able to read my book in the morning, you know, one day before my kids wake
00:49:05
up and and just practicing those habits now.
00:49:07
I'm not saying that that I'll I will do it every day.
00:49:10
I know that life is life, but it's I'm creating healthy habits that I didn't have growing up.
00:49:16
That's right.
00:49:17
And I'm creating a lifestyle that essentially I just I'm just I see for myself.
00:49:23
And so I think it all it all started when I just switched my dialogue and even talking, I I
00:49:32
did a photo shoot because I I do modeling stuff as well.
00:49:35
And I I did a photo shoot, and my photographer and I were talking, and I loved every photo.
00:49:41
Now there was a time in my life where I would have hated every photo except for maybe one I
00:49:46
loved every photo.
00:49:48
There were 2 photos that were not flattering.
00:49:53
So I sent them to him and I said, hey.
00:49:56
I love all the photos including these, but these are my least favorite.
00:50:00
He said, why?
00:50:01
I said, because the angle in which I'm standing is not flattering to my body.
00:50:09
So if we could just use some of the other ones, that would be great.
00:50:12
And he was like, yeah.
00:50:12
No problem.
00:50:14
And just that difference in the way I would have said it a year ago, I would have been
00:50:18
like, first of all, I look, and I would have just destroyed myself.
00:50:22
Yeah.
00:50:22
When all it was was the angle of the photo, And so it's just the way I I speak not only to
00:50:31
myself, but when I'm talking to others about myself, and I had someone say to me, how do you
00:50:37
get like that?
00:50:38
Did she get like what?
00:50:40
They said, do you really love your body?
00:50:42
I said, yeah.
00:50:43
I do.
00:50:43
I said, and I loved it.
00:50:45
You know, I've learned to love what it used to be too because it got me through a lot of
00:50:48
things.
00:50:49
I didn't think that then, but, you know, And they said and I think that it there's a
00:50:55
misconception that because I lost weight all of a sudden I'm, you know, don't have any type of
00:51:02
dysmorphia or I don't struggle with body image or it you know, I don't have still the mindset
00:51:06
there.
00:51:08
However, I said, yeah.
00:51:09
I do love my body.
00:51:10
It's healthy, and I get to work out.
00:51:13
And I I have the privilege of doing that, and I get to walk, and I get to work, and do all
00:51:17
those things.
00:51:19
And she asked me, how do I get there?
00:51:22
She was, do you just trick your brain?
00:51:23
I go, you literally have to trick your brain.
00:51:27
And just like working out, you practice that every day.
00:51:30
And I I do believe that the way that I train and the way I work out and going when I didn't
00:51:37
want to and being able to lose weight, but also maintain it and get through the mind shift is
00:51:40
what's gonna get me through my career too because at the toughest times where I'm like, I
00:51:40
don't wanna be an actress.
00:51:40
I don't wanna do this.
00:51:40
I'm I'm like, no.
00:51:50
Resetting all these patterns that you had since you were super young.
00:51:54
I was saying I was super insecure kid too, and you had to kinda just, like, overcome these
00:51:58
things.
00:51:58
Right?
00:51:59
And there's still times where I'm like, oh, man, I gotta get more chapter.
00:52:02
Like, you know, like, but for me, it's more of, like, the feeling of it.
00:52:05
But one thing I wanted to kinda touch on was something that I has been super impactful in my
00:52:10
life and that I've learned is
00:52:10
that when you serve others, that vibration is so high that, like, it, like, can't help but
00:52:10
deliver you stuff.
00:52:10
Like, right?
00:52:11
And so, like, I got into, you know, the field that I'm in where I'm a doctor and I'm but I'm
00:52:24
also this entrepreneur, and I have to keep this business running.
00:52:26
So there's that fine line between I am serving people, but they pay me money to do so.
00:52:30
Yeah.
00:52:30
You know, you can you can be having a lower month or something, and you're like, alright.
00:52:33
We gotta collect some money.
00:52:34
So let's get people in the door and let's get people on these care plans and stuff.
00:52:38
And, like, that that just focuses so much on the numbers that you stop serving people, and
00:52:42
it all goes downhill.
00:52:43
Right?
00:52:43
And so, like, that mindset shift has always been for me.
00:52:45
It's like, alright.
00:52:45
Where are we?
00:52:45
Like, doesn't even matter about the money.
00:52:45
I'm gonna serve this person in front of me to the best that they deserve serve, whatever they
00:52:53
choose to do, they'll choose to do.
00:52:55
And what they end up choosing to do is pay me a lot of money to help them get better.
00:52:58
And it's because they want to, and they realize that the the truth of it is that, like, I'm
00:53:02
just focused on, like, helping them.
00:53:04
You know what I mean?
00:53:04
And, like,
00:53:05
everyone in our clinic too.
00:53:06
And so I have to, like, always bring that back to the the, bring back to homes because, like,
00:53:10
that's what got me through, like, some hard stuff in my life too.
00:53:12
It was, like, stop focusing on myself and my pity party and that and just go serve other
00:53:17
people and, like, you can't then focus on the negative because you're so focused on that.
00:53:21
Yeah.
00:53:21
And it's it's it's massive.
00:53:23
And I think too, like, I, I mean, I'm I'm doing this podcast, and I'm not making money
00:53:28
necessarily.
00:53:29
I'm not making any money off of it, and I'm still choosing to do it every day.
00:53:33
And I'm like, I I know one day that will all come and it's still bringing me joy.
00:53:38
So that just tells me, like, I'm on the right path because all you ever wanna do is wake up
00:53:42
and be happy.
00:53:43
Okay.
00:53:44
And I wake up, and I'm happy, and I'm grateful.
00:53:46
And
00:53:47
You're doing good work.
00:53:48
That's all.
00:53:49
Yeah.
00:53:49
So what's next?
00:53:50
What's What's next 4 minutes of positivity?
00:53:53
I know I'm coming on.
00:53:54
So
00:53:55
I know.
00:53:55
I'm excited about that.
00:53:56
I can't we have to set that up.
00:53:57
That one's gonna be great.
00:53:59
Yeah, minutes positive.
00:54:00
I'm excited for this new launch.
00:54:01
I'm focusing on getting those little moments of positivity out there and hopefully getting some
00:54:08
more of my modeling and acting gigs.
00:54:10
Cool.
00:54:10
So we're on the we're on I see it.
00:54:13
I know, you know, if I quit now and I re I'll realize how close I am.
00:54:17
So I'm
00:54:19
We won't
00:54:19
let them know.
00:54:20
Yeah.
00:54:20
I'm not ready to do that.
00:54:21
So we're
00:54:22
we're doing that.
00:54:22
Tell our audience where they can find you, find the podcast.
00:54:26
Is Instagram?
00:54:27
What they do?
00:54:28
Is mine is Alexa E.
00:54:30
Jam.
00:54:30
It's just my name.
00:54:31
Minutes of positivity has its own page as well.
00:54:34
And then you can find me on TikTok and YouTube by clicking just Alexa and E.
00:54:39
Awesome.
00:54:39
Awesome.
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Thank you so much for coming out on the podcast.
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We appreciate you so much.
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Thank you for having me.
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This has been great.
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Thank you for having me.
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A couple
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of people or so.
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Yeah.
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As always, This is full fuel.
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And, it is affectionately season 2 is gonna be sponsored by lessee functional health.
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Welcome to the full fuel podcast.
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I'm gonna set what the new normal look like in my life.
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You're not limited by your genetics.
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You have all the super power that is lifting people out.
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So, unfortunately, most businesses aren't gonna use the highest quality ingredients.
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What's your approach?
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Oh, Jack.
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I know you've Jack.
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That's why I'm asking them, like, a don't think he lives.
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Yeah.
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Consistency and everything that we do that really compound.
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Only way we're gonna get the word out is with you, lift full fuel, lift your own limits,
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baby.
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Let's call.